How to Negotiate a Moment of Discomfort

With Another Person



If your discomfort is fear

Say “I am afraid”

If anger

Say “I am angry” 

Take responsibility for your feeling


Claim it as your own


Nobody put it there

Nobody can take it away

It is yours to contend with 


Don’t smother your feeling with kindness


Like pouring thick sauce on bad fish

It still stinks

Everyone can smell it



With your finger and thumb

Pinch yourself very hard

See how easily you are hurt


All of life is tender and vulnerable

There is no escape from this condition